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Christmas Couples To Do List - 10 Things That Don't Cost a Penny

12 Dec 2021

Chridtmas is one of the most romantic times of the year,there's candlelit dinners with the twinkling of the tree lights, holding hands whilst walking in the cold air and so much more.

December can also be a time of the year where we neglect to do the little things because we're so focused on finances, buying gifts, seeing family or even stressing about if we're even able to see our family. It's for that very reason I've decided to write a Chridtmas couples to do list that won't cost you a penny... because let's be honest sometimes time together can be the best thing we need.

1) write Christmas cards together OR design an e-card and email it to friends and family.

2) watch a Christmas movie

3) decorate your Christmas tree

4) wrap up warm and go for a walk together

5) make hot chocolate (or whatever you opt to drink) then sit beside your Christmas tree and have a proper catch up. Take a length of time out of your day to really talk and listen.

6) make dinner together and light some candles. When Lee and I make dinner together we aways reminisce to when I used the Broccoli florets ASDA substituted in our order as centre pieces.)

7) take silly, funny festive selfies

8) have a pajama day and spend the day relaxing

9) shower together - nothing creates intimacy and feeling close to each other more than a shower together.

10) Put some festive music on and have a dance. I recently published a playlist of 60+ Minutes of Non Stop Festive music. Nothing cheers me up more than Lee's facial expressions when I'm dancing!

What is your favourite thing you enjoy doing with your partner that doesn't cost a single penny? Let me know below.

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Breakup · Friendship · Relationships

Bestie Breakup - How I'm Moving on From One and 5+ Tips So You Can Too

26 Jul 2021

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There were no raised voices, no drinks spilled and no rapid texting session, that's the way it normally happens on TV right? On New Year's Eve after a video call with my boyfriend, I was about to message my friend when I noticed on Facebook it said "Add Friend" I'd slowly been removed from all forms of social media. It seemed my besties and I relationship was well and truly over and I know a lot had happened that brought it to this.

Is there anything worse than a bestie breakup though? Even if you expect it's coming but still hold out a little hope whilst it feels you're clutching at straws checking in with them, it's a brutal heartwrenching feeling knowing you're losing them! What's worse is you can't even give them a text and explain what's happening with you because you're having problems with THEM!

Is it the memories you make together, funny memes you share, buying flip flops as your feet are burning after a night out dancing, or is it sharing the serious stuff that's been happening in your life, discussing your mental health, career or how you've been feeling since lockdown. Is it not sharing that stuff that causes a problem? Feeling like you can't discuss your mental health with them then the friendship fizzles out as you sink further down into lockdown life as there's no dating tales or coffee catch ups happening.

It was a lot to process for me when it happened as I kept thinking about all the things that happened during the time of our friendship but I've come to realise 6 months later that sometimes these things happen and I wish her the best. It has taken me time to move on and be okay with leaving it in the past and as I know it can be quite a lot when you're going through it I thought I'd write 5+ tips to help you adjust;

1) Don't look for closure

It's natural to look for a way to find closure but the truth is, there's no quick fix! It has to come from you and it will if you give yourself time to adjust. Try different distraction techniques to take your mind of things for awhile, read your favourite book, watch a movie or even take your self on a walk to help clear your head.

2) Write them a letter

If you're struggling and want to really to let it out, feeling angry at how things ended then consider writing it all down. Let all the words out as bottling them up can only make you feel worse but you don't need to necessarily send them the letter.

3) Keep their stuff

If you have a few items belonging to your ex-bestie, keep them in case they message wanting them back! There's nothing worse than binning something in anger then having to explain where it is! If they really want the items - they'll be in touch! I suggest giving yourself a time frame and if they don't message within that then get rid. I know it's harsh but if you've been removed from social media? The strings have been cut and there may be no other way to get in touch.

4) Forget about chasing them

Nobody wants a friendship to end, but don't put in more effort than necessary trying to recover what's been lost.

5) Give Yourself Time

There's no rush in finding another bestie, take some time out and recharge yourself. Think about starting a new hobby, put your time and effort into something positive.

6) No badmouthing zone

Even if the friendship ended on bad terms or quietly sizzled out, remember to have dignity, keep their secrets, and don't talk about them negatively. Remember the good times, the fun moments, and everything you else you both shared. Remain respectful and have hope they will to.

7) Try not to search their social media

I know it's hard, if you're like me who doesn't look at someone's social media then it's good but if you there are options to unfollow them but remain friends or else try to not get their updates incase it hurts looking at them being out with new friends.

8) Accept It

I know it can be hard to accept but, given time, all wounds will eventually heal. And if they have already removed you from all platforms of social media, they have already come to terms with it - they will rebuild on their own, and so can you!

Do you have any tips for coping with a friendship breakup? Let me know in the comments below.

Blogmas 2020 · Boyfriend · Christmas · Dating/Relationships · Relationships · The Boyfriend

The Boyfriend Tag | Christmas Style

7 Dec 2020

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This is my first Christmas with my boyfriend so I wanted to do something fun to celebrate that and as he always brings out my goofy and carefree side so naturally, I decided The Boyfriend Tag would be a fab way to see how similar or opposite we are when it comes to the festive period as he knows I'm kind of excited with Christmas.

1) What are you most looking forward to this Christmas?

Kerry-Ann: I'm most looking forward to my first Christmas with Lee and spending time with my family.

Lee: Spending it in a relationship with someone I love.

2) Do you have any festive traditions?

Kerry-Ann: We always open one present on Christmas Eve.. although over the years my sister and I have bent the rules so it's only one present from our mum!

Lee: I go to my parents' house on Christmas Eve and stay over until 26th/27th.

3) When you hear the word Christmas, what do you think about?

Kerry-Ann: Lights, Christmas trees and my family on Christmas morning when we still get excited to rip the paper off our gifts.

Lee: Snow, good spirits and family.

4) Is there anywhere you'd like to spend the holiday season?

Kerry-Ann: This is easy, without a doubt New York. It's one of the cities I've been obsessed with since I was a child and I've had a festive New York bucket list for years!

Lee: 2 places - either Las Vegas (to see how it gets decorated) or New York!

5) What does your Christmas dinner look like?

Kerry-Ann: Mashed and Roast Potatoes, Carrots, Garden and Bigga Peas, Broccoli, Cauliflower.

Lee: Turkey, stuffing, gammon, roast and boiled potatoes, sprouts, peas and carrots. Sometimes chipolatas.

6) Do you have a favourite Christmas or December memory?

Kerry-Ann: We always went to my Grandparents when I was growing up on Christmas day it was always where my whole family congregated and I remember when I was about 11 it was snowing and nearly my whole family had a massive snow fight! My Granny watched from the window whilst my Granda watched his film on the TV and we literally just all had a ball together.

Lee: The surprise of receiving a Playstation 2 in 2000 when I never expected to receive it.

7) What gift have you always wanted but never received?

Kerry-Ann: I've always wanted a charm bracelet filled with charms that represent different memories with someone. I always asked for one or dropped hints every year but my mum always tells me she wouldn't have a clue what to fill it with.

Lee: Action Man Street racer, but Santa wrote me a letter to explain that his elves couldn't make it.

8) Do you have a real or artificial tree?

Kerry-Ann: Artificial! If I think it's bad my cat Ethan attempting to snack on the fake one everyday, gosh knows what he would do with a real one!

Lee: Artificial for sure! I couldn't keep a real one!

9) You've been granted a wish, what is it?

Kerry-Ann: To give the world a hug right now! I don't think there's not one person that deserves or needs one.

Lee: For the global pandemic to subside shortly so we can get back to normality very soon afterwards.

10) What are your plans or goals for 2021?

Kerry-Ann: I spent 2020 focusing on my finances and it's something I will continue to focus on going into 2021. Although in 2021 I want to really think about career options and goals within that area of my life as well as my blogging/writing.

My plans include continuing to support my boyfriend in his streaming and also strengthening my relationships with friends, family, and my boyfriend.

Lee: To get better at my current job, to support my girlfriend in expanding her audience on her social media platforms and her blog as well as my Twitcher channel and influence.

F A V O U R I T E S

Kerry-Ann

Song: All I Want For Christmas by Mariah Carey

Movie: ELF

Snack: Candy Canes or Poundland Chocolate Santas

Gift Received: A Telescope I never knew I was getting one year, my dad had lost his job and we didn't have much but it was still one of my favourite Christmasses when he left and came back into the living room after we'd opened our presents and told us someone had left more gifts at the door for us. Mine was a telescope and it's my gift I've received at Christmas.

Drink: Pink Gin and Lemonade (as pictured below) or Hot Chocolae

Lee:

Song: All I Want For Christmas by Mariah Carey

Movie: Die Hard or Gremlins (Don't @ me)

Snack: Candy Cane or Chocolate

Gift Received: I couldn't pick one I cherish them all.

Drink: Has to be beer for me, sadly!

I'm actually surprised by the similarities in some of our answers but also really happy how much we both love the festive season and how important our families are to us.

Lee is a Twitch streamer under the name cptfishpaste as mentioned I before in my 10 Twitch Streamers You Should Be Watching if you're interested in gaming or enjoy watching others play games then check out his channel and social media links below! I can guarantee you'll be laughing, smiling, and have a fab time if you stop by! We always end up talking and chatting about so much more than gaming and he's always so supportive of fellow streamers that sop by and off me and my blogging.

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Check out The Ultimate Couples Gift Guide from Christmas With Katie full of amazing ideas for within the home or with a personal touch.

What do you think of The Boyfriend Tag? Have you done it with a partner? Let me know below!

Dating · Dating/Relationships · Relationships

My Experience Dating A Gamer and Why I'd Encourage Others To

26 Oct 2020

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This is a sponsored post.

Picture this, January 2020 the world is normal, a girl goes online and messages a guy she finds attractive, from his profile bio that filled her with laughter, right down to his “single and ready to get nervous around anyone I find attractive” t-shirt his personality shone through and she knew instantly she wanted to get to know him better.

Two dates, a worldwide pandemic with a lot of virtual dating and virtual gaming together then more in-person dates after the lockdown was lifted *cheers* that girl is now in a happy, loving relationship.

That girl is me, and I’m dating a gamer.

Or well I was... I’m now in a relationship with them.

In my experience Gamer dating is so much fun and something I believe many should try. When I first started dating my boyfriend he would tell me all about his console games and they sounded fascinating, the attention to detail, the story that goes along with it I was interested because he was sharing something he was passionate about with me just like I would talk about my love of reading and new book releases with him we were both taking the time to talk about things we enjoy doing and that’s what dating is all about, getting to know one another and wanting to spend more time with that person.

Although gaming can be seen as a bit of a hobby niche I think we need to give gamers a chance as the person behind the game and screen can be fascinating and interesting. Not only that but think about all the time and effort they put into solving a game.. When not gaming they’ll put that effort into your dates. (hopefully)

If you're wanting to check out the world of gamer dating then I suggest you check out Gamer’s Dates. The free gamer dating site where you can create your own profile, share the games you’re interested in, and chat with like-minded people who share the same interests… Hopefully, you'll find yourself your very own gamer.

According to The Entertainment Software Association, “video game players are also more likely to pursue healthier lifestyles” which can improve moods and also make you feel better mentally. Being around positive people gives you an instant boost also which sounds like a win-win to me.

If you’re worried though the person you are dating will be spending all their time gaming it could be the perfect opportunity for you to find something you’re interested in as well. My boyfriend and I have many individual interests and that’s why I feel we work, I respect his time when he needs or wants to play games and he respects mine when I'm reading.

Gaming doesn’t have to be all one-sided though or all console gaming as there are so many board games out there you could enjoy together that perhaps could bring out a little competitiveness between you both. For instance the night we played Pokemon Monopoly the game lasted for 4 hours and it’s one of the best nights I’ve had just sitting up playing games and finding something we were able to both enjoy whilst spending time with each other.

There are many virtual gaming ideas you can take advantage of as well when getting to know the gamer you’re dating. Check out my list of 5 Virtual Date Ideas where I mention different gaming options especially good for being on the go or taking 10 minutes away at night to spend with each other after a busy day.

My overall experience dating a gamer has been a positive one and I'm hoping it will continue to be, I've also found a love of gaming back for myself and looking forward to giving that a go for myself as well.

Have you ever dated a gamer? Do you enjoy playing games in your relationship? Let me know in the comments below.

I did not meet my partner on the dating site mentioned in this post.

Date Ideas · Dating · Online Dating · Relationships · Self Isolating · Virtual Dating

Welcome to the World of Virtual Dating! - 5 Virtual Date Ideas

9 May 2020

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Welcome to the World of VIRTUAL DATING! The time where we can have a date from the comfort of our homes, style our hair amazingly, and can look out at the rain with our hair maintaining in pristine condition (goodbye to dating hair diaster.)

advice · Cheap Date Ideas · Date Ideas · Friendship · Galentines · Galentines Date Ideas · Galentines Day · Relationships

7 Galentine's Date Ideas (That Won't Break the Bank!)

10 Feb 2020

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Galentines 2020 is on the horizon and what better to celebrate than a date with your girls! Instead of feeling miserable about being Single on Valentines (that's so a decade ago) many women are embracing themselves, friends, and also just feel more empowered and in control everyday!